Jewelry
A diamond is a fitting symbol for everlasting love
because of its beauty, rarity and enduring value.
Diamonds
Every couple should understand the "Four C’s" (Cut, Color, Clarity and Carat) before choosing a diamond. The brief summary below provides a starting point. Any expert jeweler will gladly augment this information by answering questions that are sure to arise when the search begins.
Cut: The visual beauty of a diamond is largely determined by the cutter and polisher when they transform the rough, natural-occurring crystal into the faceted, refined gemstone seen in the jewelry store. Ideally, the best cut will reflect the maximum amount of light back to the viewer. This reflection, called brilliance, is vital to determining value.
Cut also refers to the shape of the diamond. The most common shapes are round, pear, oval, marquis, emerald, baguette and heart. The shape of the cut contributes little to value. It’s the quality of the cut that counts.
Color: To the untrained eye, the common diamond is somewhat colorless, usually tinged yellow, brown or gray. The completely colorless diamond is very rare and thus very valuable. Also rare and valuable is the "fancy stone," a diamond with definite color rather than just a shade or tinge. Yellow, red, green, blue, canary and brown are some of the colors that make "fancy stones" valuable.
Since completely colorless diamonds and "fancy stones" may be out of the average couple’s price range, couples will wisely remember that shades of color lower the price of common, mostly colorless diamonds. So if a more obvious tint of yellow appeals to a couple’s personal tastes, they may get more diamond for their money.
Clarity: Diamonds are formed deep in the earth from one simple mineral — carbon. As the carbon crystallizes into a diamond, imperfections make each crystal unique. Internal and external spots and lines form, lessening the clarity of the diamond.
A flawless diamond must show no surface blemishes or interior inclusions when examined at a 10x power magnification. Generally, the more irregularities there are, the lower the value of the diamond. Value is also affected by those imperfections that interfere with light passage.
Carat: The weight of a diamond is expressed in carats: 1 carat equals 200 milligrams; 142 carats equal 1 ounce. Carat fractions are further subdivided into points: 1 carat equals 100 points; 1/2 carat equals 50 points; etc.
The weight of a diamond is not the most important factor when determining its value, however. The three other C’s discussed above — cut, color and clarity — play a greater role when computing diamond price. If cut, color and clarity are equal, a 1 carat stone will be more valuable than a 3/4 carat. But a 3/4 carat diamond that has better cut, color or clarity can easily cost more than the 1 carat stone.
Whether looking for a sparkling diamond or lovely gemstone, a couple should take the time to consider a fifth (and perhaps the most important) "C": Confidence. The wise couple will choose a jeweler in whom they have confidence. The reliable jeweler will talk frankly and freely about the diamond the couple wants to buy and the price they want to pay.
Insurance & Care Another issue to consider when investing in a diamond is insurance coverage. If you and your fiancé are combining households, you will probably acquire or update a homeowners or renters insurance policy as part of the process. Your ring will automatically be insured with the rest of your possessions.
However, be aware that under most homeowners or renters policies, automatic coverage is limited to between $1,000 and $2,500, and you’re likely to pay a deductible if a loss occurs. In addition, the coverage often is restricted to a few specific causes of loss. If your ring is worth more, you should request a separate scheduled endorsement or "floater" from your insurance agent.
A sales slip is usually insufficient for insurance purposes. It is important for your jeweler to provide a more detailed appraisal or report for insurance coverage, so your insurance company can pay to replace your ring with a ring alike in kind and quality in the event of a loss.
Another option is buying a separate jewelry insurance policy. This choice can include more comprehensive coverage in case of loss, theft or damage. It can also offer no deductible, a complete description and the value of the ring written on the policy, and annual inspections and cleanings of your ring by the jeweler of your choice to prevent wear and future problems. Finally, when you come home with your new ring, be sure to care for it properly so it can keep saying "I love you" forever. Clean your ring frequently to avoid dirt build-up which can accelerate wear. Unless your diamond is fracture-filled, clean it with an ammonia-based jewelry cleaning solution or rubbing alcohol and a soft toothbrush. Once cleaned, dry your diamond with a soft, clean cloth. Your jeweler can professionally clean your ring and provide you with additional maintenance tips.
Annual inspections by your jeweler will help identify potential problems, such as loose or worn prongs that could catch on fabric and cause your diamond to fall out of its setting. Whenever you suspect such a problem, have your jeweler inspect your ring immediately.
Avoid sharp blows to your diamond. Even though diamonds are among the hardest of materials, they are not indestructible. Diamonds can chip if struck at the wrong angle.
Protect your ring from dirt and grime. If you are gardening or performing chores around the home, remove your ring. But don’t leave it on a dresser or counter where it could be lost or stolen. Put it in a soft container in a safe place, away from other objects that could scratch the stone. Always keep your ring out of the reach of children and pets, and be sure to remember where you left it!
Here’s a good rule of thumb: wear your engagement ring as you would your favorite dress. Be careful, but enjoy wearing it!
OTHER JEWELRY
Bridal Jewelry Jewelry plays an important role in the finishing touches of the bride’s attire. It is wise to keep in mind the style of the dress, since the jewelry should work as an accent, not a distraction to the wedding gown. A stunning necklace can add sparkle to a seemingly simple sophisticated dress. Earrings can act as a frame to the face. A bracelet can add additional interest to the ensemble. Choosing the right jewelry is important and luckily there are many jewelers who can help.
Costume jewelry can be found at jewelry stores, bridal shops, specialty stores and artisans who will even custom make the jewelry to exact specifications.
Gifts Many couples provide their bridesmaids with matching necklaces and earrings as a gift that will complete their ensemble. This jewelry can incorporate the wedding colors or work as an accent to add color to the bridesmaids’ apparel. Most couples will include the jewelry as a "thank you" gift to the attendants.
Jewelers offer other beautiful quality gifts for both the men and women who partake in the ceremony. For the bridesmaids, consider bracelets, charms, watches and other trinkets or collectibles. For the men; cuff links, watches and fine pens make wonderful gifts. While browsing through the jewelry shop, the bride and groom may even want to think about a special gift for one another. Jewelry is a lasting gift that, like marriage, will stand the test of time!
Tuesday, 1 July 2008
Tuesday, 10 June 2008
Share the Joy: Attendants, Invitations & Etiquette, Gifts, Parties
Invitations & Etiquette
Beautiful or whimsical... Elegant or casual...
An invitation can set the tone and evoke
anticipation of the event to come.
Some of the toughest decisions in planning a wedding are faced when the guest list is made. Who do you invite? Where do you draw the line? Do you want to give an open invitation at your office or church? Only the couple can come up with the answers to these questions. The decision-making process does not end here, however. True, many options exist when making the guest list, but even more options exist when choosing the invitations.
There are dozens of lines of invitations and announcements, as well as "personalized" invitations utilizing calligraphy, sketches or even a photograph of the couple. Most local stationers and printers carry a variety of lines, and some have a dozen or more sample books with hundreds of sample invitations.
Relying on the Professionals
Relying on the professionals is the key. In most cases, they will point out the "socially correct" way to arrange (and spell) words. The help of a true professional is indispensable for today’s couples juggling to include both parents and stepparents. The professional’s knowledge of etiquette is an asset not only for the invitation itself, but also often for many other aspects of the wedding.
Invitation Etiquette
The following are some of the basic traditional rules of wedding etiquette the bride and groom should remember when preparing their invitations and announcements:
1. Names and titles should be spelled out. The only exceptions are Mr., Mrs., Ms., and Jr.
2. Write out all dates and times in the invitation. The numbers in addresses need not be spelled out, although streets should be. Include the state if the city is not well known.
3. Never under any circumstances, include information regarding your gift registry or desire for monetary gifts. All information regarding gift preference should be passed along by word of mouth. Today, however, it has become acceptable to declare "no gifts" or in lieu of a gift to make a donation to a specified charity.
4. Put response cards and stamped pre-addressed envelopes inside the invitation with any other enclosures. Place this in the inner envelope, and put the inner envelope in the outer one, so that it faces the back flap. (See “Inserting Invitations” diagram below).
5. Do not seal the inner envelope. Address it simply to "Mr. and Mrs. Jones". Do not use first names, except in the case of children. Even then, they should be listed on a second line underneath their parents’ names.
6. Envelopes should be addressed in black ink and never typed. Do not abbreviate names or addresses and include the return address centered on the back, near the top.
7. Mail invitations six to eight weeks before the wedding.
8. Mail announcements on the day of the wedding (or soon after).
Inserting Invitations
1. Insert invitation into the inner envelope along with enclosure card, reply card and any other enclosures. Always remember the front (printed side) of the invitation faces the back side of the envelope, fold down (see diagram A). The tissue that is placed over lettering to prevent smudging may be discarded or left in place.
2. Place the unsealed inner envelope into the outer envelope. The front (addressed side) of the inner envelope faces the back flap of the outer envelope (see diagram B).
Sample Wording
The only way to be assured that your invitations are worded properly is to work with a professional stationer or invitation specialist. The following are samples of some common wording you can use to get you started. The worksheet section of this WEDDING Planner & Guide contains space to jot down your initial wording. After you have recorded your ideas, visit your local stationer or printer to discuss the details. The stationer or printer can also help couples to determine what type of invitations, printing processes (engraved: letters cut into the paper; thermography: raised lettering, etc.), colors, or trends will work best with their wedding plans.
Traditional
Bride's Parents Sponsoring
Mr. and Mrs. William Andrews
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Sarah Lynn
to
Mr. Michael James Brooks
on Saturday, the tenth of September
at half past two o'clock
St. Patrick Church
Lake Geneva, Wisconsin Contemporary
Bride's Parents Sponsoring
Mr. and Mrs. William Andrews
would like you to
join their daughter
Sarah
and
Mike Brooks
in the celebration of their marriage
Less Formal
Bride's Parents Sponsoring
We ask only those dearest in our
hearts to join us in celebrating the
marriage of our daughter
Sarah to
Mike Brooks
at half past two o'clock on Saturday,
September tenth
St. Patrick Church
Lake Geneva, Wisconsin
Mary and William Andrews Traditional
Bride and Groom's Parents Sponsoring
Helpful Hints
Since most couples do not know a great deal about the process of inviting guests, they are encouraged to keep a few other things in mind:
1 Order invitations four to six months before the wedding. Make sure all details are secured before ordering (i.e. location, date, time).
2 Find a store where the staff will spend enough time with their customers. Deal with people who know what they are doing. Not all people who sell invitations are professionals who know proper etiquette and wording.
3 Get everything - invitations, envelopes, announcements and any supplements - at the same time. Be sure to have an accurate guest count. Order extra invitations and envelopes, because extra orders later will mean extra costs.
4 To save headaches later, choose programs, thank-yous, printed napkins, place cards and other related items now.
5 Finally, proofread the order form carefully before signing it. Printers will not usually correct mistakes unless you pay for them.
6 Mail invitations six weeks before the wedding (eight weeks if most of the guests are out-of-state).
7 After the invitations are sent, responses begin arriving immediately. Devise a system to keep track of replies. An alphabetized checklist, index cards, ledger or home computer are all easy ways to keep track of who has and has not responded (keep in mind that statistics show you should only expect a 75 to 80 percent return).
BRIDAL SHOW TIPS
Before the Show
Buy the tickets in advance to save money and avoid waiting in line to purchase tickets.
Discuss your wedding planning budget. Have an idea of what products and services you want and how much you are willing to spend.
Make a plan ahead of time of what you want to accomplish at the show. With the variety of businesses at the WEDDING Planner & Guide Bridal Show, you can surely accomplish all of your planning needs.
Pre-printing labels with Name, Wedding Date, Address and Phone Number will make signing up for drawings quick and easy!
Day of Show
Dress comfortably and wear comfortable shoes. You'll be doing a lot of walking around.
Bring key people with you who are decision makers. (Bride, Groom, Moms, Dads) What you can get done now saves time later.
Bring paper and pen for notes on exhibitors and which products and services interest you. You can use the show program to mark fashions that catch your eye during the fashion show.
Allow as much time as possible to spend at the event. All of your wedding planning can be taken care of at the show.
Look at each booth. Don't miss out on an opportunity or unique idea. For serious shopping, it is best to visit booths during the fashion show. Aisles tend to be less congested, allowing for quality time with the vendors.
Take a break if you are feeling tired or overwhelmed. Sit by the fashion show stage or grab something from concessions. Rest, have a bite to eat and look over your gathered information.
After the Show
Go home and view the information collected.
Check out the WEDDING Planner & Guide or wedplan.com for more information on the vendors.
Follow up with vendors you are interested in.
Most importantly, enjoy yourself throughout your planning process! In the end, you will be married and that of course is what is most
Sunday, 8 June 2008
The Ceremony:
Traditional Church Weddings
Choosing a site for a wedding ceremony can be as easy as going to church each Sunday. The choice of a church is usually based on a religious belief of either the bride or groom, or both. Many couples simply choose to be married in the church they are currently attending or in the church either family may have attended for years. And, once the church is chosen, usually the person who will perform the ceremony comes with it. The couple will then work with this clergyperson on all the details of their ceremony, and any needed requirements the church may have such as premarital counseling, baptism, or membership in the church.
Couples desiring a religious ceremony without a particular church in mind, must try to find a church that will marry non-members or begin a relationship with a particular church or clergymember. Some churches offer non-denominational ceremonies. If a particular religion is desired, the couple should search out churches of that faith and immediately talk to the clergymembers to learn about the requirements for marriage within that particular church.
For those wishing an alternative to the traditional church wedding, couples are finding quite a variety of sites to tie the knot!
Home Weddings
A popular alternative site for many couples is in the home. This may include their parents' home, the home of a close friend, or even their own home. This offers the couple and their guests intimacy, comfort, and a familiar setting for family and friends. Creative imaginations can lead to anything from a small, casual indoor ceremony, to a backyard gala, or even an elegant formal affair. With the help of a caterer, decorator, rental company and other wedding professionals, the host/hostess may take as little or as much involvement in the event as he/she desires.
Outdoor Weddings
Outdoor weddings are, of course, nothing new, but they are becoming more popular. Even in this area, where winters are cold and the weather is always unpredictable, the beauty of nature is unsurpassed. Outdoor sites may be as close as your own backyard or a nearby city, county, or state park. If you are considering a site that does not have a shelter of some kind, never fear, there are rental companies that will deliver them to the site you choose. The choice of a tent can set the stage for a unique wedding celebration. Tents can be set up almost anywhere!
Officiants
Ceremony officiants range from those dedicated to a particular religion or church, to civil servants that will perform a ceremony strictly based on law without any religious content. For those wanting to include religion in a non-sectarian sense, ceremony officiants exist who can fulfill those needs. These reverends and other clergypersons will help couples by performing ceremonies that will include a general religious message without referencing any specific religion. Often these officiants will go to unique sites to perform a ceremony or may have connections with a particular church where they can also perform the ceremony if the couple desires.
Vows
For these more unique ceremonies, often special vows are written. It should be discussed with the officiant any particular wording that should or should not be included. The officiant may also be able to help by referencing ideas from past weddings that they have performed. The actual vows themselves can be anything that the couple may desire to share in declaring their heartfelt message to the one that they love! For church weddings, the couple should discuss with the clergymember any specific wording they may want to use in their vows. While some churches may allow couples to include their own vows, other churches may not.
Special Touches
Besides writing ones own vows, or choosing a unique wedding site, there are other ways to personalize a ceremony. Special touches including decorations can add a personal touch to even the most traditional of weddings. Elegant bows, balloon arches and flowers can change the atmosphere of any location.
Proclaiming the new union of husband and wife can be immediately celebrated as the couple leaves the ceremony greeted by their guests blowing bubbles or to a release of dozens of helium balloons. How about taking the celebration to new heights? Companies specializing in dove releases can provide a breathtaking touch to the union. Pure white doves joyfully rise as a testament to the new marriage - symbolizing love, hope, peace and harmony. Releases can include two doves, romantic and sweet, or ten to twenty doves to fill the sky for a fairy tale beginning to married life. Available for release year-round, these doves are not left defenseless in the wild, they return directly to their aviary and never linger at the site. Want to start marriage off with a bang? Pyrotechnicians (fireworks specialists) can light the night sky with a variety of colorful bursts sure to leave guests oohing and aahing! Creativity is truly the only limit to making a wedding ceremony unique.
Transportation
Spending time together with the wedding party is a great way to enjoy the entire wedding day but can also cause havoc moving from place to place. Many wedding parties of today include a large number of bridesmaids, groomsmen and ushers. Luckily there are transportation businesses ready to accommodate these large groups. Whether going from the wedding site to the reception site or for a pre-wedding fun night out on the town, there are a variety of vehicles now available to choose from.
Traditional limousines remain a popular mode of transportation. Limousines offer many luxurious options and have a variety of extra special features sure to make traveling in style fun too! Limousines most often are available in wedding white or elegant black. Many limousines provide the comfort of leather seating and features like televisions, stereos, bars and special lighting.
Buses have also become a popular way to move large wedding parties from place to place. The choices of available styles and sizes vary greatly. From luxurious motor coaches to mini-buses, these vehicles are as different on the inside as they are on the outside! Some buses are very casual, while others are extraordinary, giving people a whole new look at motor coaches travel!
For a nostalgic feel a trolley provides the festive appearance of an era gone by with the room to sit back and celebrate while on the go! These vehicles evoke a fun feeling even before you hop aboard!
No matter what type of transportation is chosen, getting there together is a great way to share a fun-filled day with those closest to your heart.
Music and Entertainment
the ceremony
Music is uniquely capable of triggering memories from different stages of our lives. Choosing music for your special day is a way to make tribute to the soundtrack of your life while choosing the songs that will remind you of your wedding for years to come.
The soundtrack of your day begins with the ceremony. Meet with your clergy person to discuss the order of the ceremony, how music can be incorporated, and if there are any restrictions placed on music. Usually, couples choose music for the following parts of the service, but are not limited to these spots:
prelude Music played during the seating of guests that usually lasts for ten to fifteen minutes.
seating of the parents This usually consists of one song and is sometimes a vocal solo with special meaning for the bride and groom.
processional A song, usually instrumental, played while the bridesmaids and bride proceed down the aisle.
song for the bride and groom This is usually a vocal song of special significance to the bride and groom, and is most often sung immediately after the vows are made.
recessional The music played after the ceremony while the bridal party exits.
postlude Music played as guests are dismissed.
questions to consider before hiring ceremony musician(s):
• What is the central theme of the ceremony? Formal or informal?
• What feelings should the music evoke? Romance? Drama?
• Do you want vocalists, instrumental music or a combination of both?
• How much of a priority is music? Are you willing to book high profile musicians?
• How much can be spent for ceremony music?
• Do you prefer live music, or are music recordings acceptable as a background for a vocalist?
• Which special songs should be included in the ceremony? Musicians can help you crystallize what you want.
• Does the church or ceremony location have its own sound system or will the musicians have to provide one?
• Have you shopped around? Do you know who can give you the highest quality?
• Have you checked the person/group’s references to make sure they are reliable?
• Have you heard them in person? It is important to verify they are what you expect and want.
• Are you booking as soon as possible?
tips for a ceremony that flows• Give the musician(s) a schedule or "script" of the ceremony highlighting their songs so they know at what point in the service they play.
• Check out the sound system ahead of time, including the piano or organ that will be used.
• Make sure a written agreement is in place. Formally confirm all dates and times with the musicians.
the reception
questions to consider before hiring reception music & entertainment:
• How long should music be played? When should it start?
• What is the desired mood of the reception?
• Are there special songs you want played?
• What type of music? Live or recorded music?
• Do you want dancing music? Background music?
• How much can be spent on reception music and entertainment?
• Are you buying entertainment according to your schedule of events or because there is an all-inclusive package? Are you paying for hours of entertainment you do not really need?
• Are you just shopping price? Remember, entertainment can make the party!
• Have you met the DJ/entertainers/musicians who will actually work at your wedding? Will they have good rapport with you and your guests?
• How many years of experience do they have?
• Are they keeping abreast of changes in the industry? Do they belong to any associations?
tips for smooth reception entertainment
• Get everything in writing ahead of time: cost, time of set-up and tear down, and amount of performance time.
• Meet the DJ/entertainers/musicians who will actually be at the reception. Discuss expectations and any special requests you want played or not played.
• Make sure the style of the entertainment fits with the desired style of the celebration. Consider guest preferences in music too.
Music is uniquely capable of triggering memories from different stages of our lives. Choosing music for your special day is a way to make tribute to the soundtrack of your life while choosing the songs that will remind you of your wedding for years to come.
The soundtrack of your day begins with the ceremony. Meet with your clergy person to discuss the order of the ceremony, how music can be incorporated, and if there are any restrictions placed on music. Usually, couples choose music for the following parts of the service, but are not limited to these spots:
prelude Music played during the seating of guests that usually lasts for ten to fifteen minutes.
seating of the parents This usually consists of one song and is sometimes a vocal solo with special meaning for the bride and groom.
processional A song, usually instrumental, played while the bridesmaids and bride proceed down the aisle.
song for the bride and groom This is usually a vocal song of special significance to the bride and groom, and is most often sung immediately after the vows are made.
recessional The music played after the ceremony while the bridal party exits.
postlude Music played as guests are dismissed.
questions to consider before hiring ceremony musician(s):
• What is the central theme of the ceremony? Formal or informal?
• What feelings should the music evoke? Romance? Drama?
• Do you want vocalists, instrumental music or a combination of both?
• How much of a priority is music? Are you willing to book high profile musicians?
• How much can be spent for ceremony music?
• Do you prefer live music, or are music recordings acceptable as a background for a vocalist?
• Which special songs should be included in the ceremony? Musicians can help you crystallize what you want.
• Does the church or ceremony location have its own sound system or will the musicians have to provide one?
• Have you shopped around? Do you know who can give you the highest quality?
• Have you checked the person/group’s references to make sure they are reliable?
• Have you heard them in person? It is important to verify they are what you expect and want.
• Are you booking as soon as possible?
tips for a ceremony that flows• Give the musician(s) a schedule or "script" of the ceremony highlighting their songs so they know at what point in the service they play.
• Check out the sound system ahead of time, including the piano or organ that will be used.
• Make sure a written agreement is in place. Formally confirm all dates and times with the musicians.
the reception
questions to consider before hiring reception music & entertainment:
• How long should music be played? When should it start?
• What is the desired mood of the reception?
• Are there special songs you want played?
• What type of music? Live or recorded music?
• Do you want dancing music? Background music?
• How much can be spent on reception music and entertainment?
• Are you buying entertainment according to your schedule of events or because there is an all-inclusive package? Are you paying for hours of entertainment you do not really need?
• Are you just shopping price? Remember, entertainment can make the party!
• Have you met the DJ/entertainers/musicians who will actually work at your wedding? Will they have good rapport with you and your guests?
• How many years of experience do they have?
• Are they keeping abreast of changes in the industry? Do they belong to any associations?
tips for smooth reception entertainment
• Get everything in writing ahead of time: cost, time of set-up and tear down, and amount of performance time.
• Meet the DJ/entertainers/musicians who will actually be at the reception. Discuss expectations and any special requests you want played or not played.
• Make sure the style of the entertainment fits with the desired style of the celebration. Consider guest preferences in music too.
Monday, 2 June 2008
Parties
After all the salutes to their happiness,
the bride and groom will find
their new lives are already packed with memories.
A wedding means celebration, as friends and family honor the bride and groom with an array of pre- and post-wedding parties. The bride finds herself the center of attention at showers, luncheons and dinners where her biggest responsibility is to enjoy herself!
The Engagement Party
Parents traditionally host the first engagement party, held either on or soon after the day the announcement appears in the newspapers. Occasionally, the parents of the bride and groom will host the same party, but more often separate parties are held.
Engagement parties often serve an important function. It is a convenient way for parents to introduce their child’s fiancé to family and friends. And of course some parents find this party an enjoyable way to get to know their child’s fiancé better as well.
Showers
Traditionally, showers are given for the bride, but today it is not unusual to find the groom at these lively functions. Chances are he will be just as delighted about the gifts with which they’ll furnish their new home.
Showers are given by any friend or relative who wants to do something special for the couple. Customarily, members of the immediate family of the bride and groom do not host a shower. When the bride’s sister or the groom’s mother give a shower, it is too much like asking for gifts. However, every bride is entitled to at least one shower—the laws of etiquette are there to help, not hinder, the effort. Often, it is the honor attendant with the help of the maids, who volunteers to host a shower. Since the shower is always given by someone other than the bride, this is one instance when registry information can be included with the invitation.
Types of Showers
Imagination is the only limitation when deciding on the theme for a shower, but it must be coordinated with the bride.
Because of the many types of showers possible, it does not make sense to have two of the same type of shower if the couple needs a variety of items.
Today there are many "home party" businesses that also specialize in bridal showers. From kitchen and pantry items to home accessories and even lingerie and intimate items, these businesses bring their products and provide a sales demonstration so party-goers are able to purchase their shower gift from items the bride chooses during the shower. Guests are also able to do some shopping for themselves at the same time. With this type of shower the hostess usually has little to prepare and guests don’t need to worry about a gift ahead of time.
Other shower themes can be as diverse as each individual bride. To solicit a variety of gifts for the bride an "Around the Clock" shower can be given. Each guest is given a time of day (or hour of the day) to use as the basis for the gift they choose. For example 8:00am may give a toaster, 6:00pm a frying pan, etc., the better the imagination, the more creative the gifts can be! A "Spice Shower" invites guests to bring a bottle of spice and a recipe that uses the spice along with their gift. A "Pantry Party" likewise incorporates bringing gifts to help the newlyweds stock up on basic food essentials. A gourmet recipe shower invites guests to bring a recipe along with one utensil needed to prepare it. For the romantic couple a "Candlelight Shower" will provide them with gifts such as candles, vases, bath & body products and romantic musical CDs. Seasonal and Holiday showers can include gifts to get a couple started on decorations or other items used for special occasions. For those with crafty friends a "Quilting Shower" can provide a very unique gift the bride will cherish forever.
Each guest is asked to make a quilt square at home and then join at the party to put it all together. If a shower is given by co-workers, most often it is held at the work place at a break, over lunch-time or after hours and one big gift can be given by the group.
Many showers even include the groom, however, a lingerie shower is appropriate when only women will be present. When both men and women are invited, a hobby or travel shower is unusual and it solicits gifts the couple can enjoy together. Other ideas for a couples shower can include a themed dinner and board games or even a mock "newlywed game" which provides fun and entertainment for all the couples who attend. Another popular shower for both couples and singles is a Wine & Cheese Tasting Shower. For this shower attendees are asked to bring two bottles of wine, one for tasting and one as a gift for the bridal couple. Toasts to the bridal couple are given by the guests as they sample the wine.
The wine & cheese shower is most appropriate for couples who already have many items for their home and of course, enjoy wine. A fun theme for couples who may not have many household items is the "Handy Hardware Shower". This type of shower can incorporate a variety of helpful gifts that can be found at a hardware store (or elsewhere). Gifts such as a hammer, step ladder, broom, pail, shovel, etc. are appropriate. The host/hostess can use this theme and incorporate tools in the decorations and invitations. For this shower guests are asked to include a handy household hint written on a card and presented with their gift.
The list of ideas goes on and on. It is best to use the interests of the bride and groom and their needs as the basis for the type of shower decided on. From there, creativity and planning will make the shower a sure success.
The Maids' Luncheon
The maids’ luncheon (or tea) is another popular pre-wedding party. Bridesmaids give the party as a "farewell" to the bride, although the bride may host the party herself.
This luncheon may take place at home or in a restaurant, wherever the bride and her ladies can take time to get together. The bride may give her ladies their wedding mementos at this time, schedule final dress fittings, display her gifts or simply revel in her friends’ company.
Refreshments are usually simple, such as finger sandwiches and coffee, and almost always include the Pink Lady’s Cake. This cake is made with a thimble, ring or coin baked inside. Tradition predicts a bright future for the attendant who gets the piece with the trinket in it, for she will be the next to marry.
The Bachelor and Bachelorette Party
Today both bachelor and bachelorette parties are equally popular. These types of parties are generally very casual and emphasize having fun, unwinding and celebrating the wedding. The party may or may not include a dinner and takes place in a home, a club or the private dining room of a restaurant.
These celebrations often incorporate a theme and can include attending a sporting event, going to a comedy club or on a shopping excursion to Chicago or the Mall of America. Some enjoy activities such as laser tag, paintball, gambling, golfing, bowling or even camping.
Getting there can be half the fun when you hire a limousine, bus or other transportation service to take partygoers from one destination to another. This also alleviates the responsibility of designated drivers, allowing everyone the opportunity to celebrate.
If alcoholic beverages are served, the party should be scheduled several days before the wedding. No one will want to look less than his/her best for the day of the wedding.
The Rehearsal Dinner
The rehearsal dinner, held immediately after the rehearsal, can be as simple or elaborate as the host wishes. However, it should never upstage the wedding itself. It is best to go to a restaurant or club. This eliminates anyone in the immediate family having to deal with entertaining and clean-up the night before the wedding.
Traditionally, the groom’s parents are responsible for the cost of the rehearsal dinner. If they are from out of town, they may ask the mother of the bride to help with reservations. But it is perfectly acceptable to have a godparent, friend or member of the bride’s family do the honor of hosting this function.
The guest list will include the attendants, the bride and groom’s immediate family, the ceremony official (and spouse, if any), plus any out-of-town guests, family or friends the couple or the host wishes to invite. If it has not already been done, the attendants’ gifts may be distributed at this occasion.
All will fare better if they make it an early evening. The best party—the wedding —is yet to happen!
Gift Opening Party
Nowadays many couples plan gift opening parties. This small gathering usually only includes the bride and groom’s families and members of the bridal party. More often than not, gifts are opened the day after the wedding or soon after the newlyweds return from their honeymoon.
When held the day after the wedding, the gift-opening party is often planned around a meal. Snacks and refreshments left over from the reception may also be served.
But the purpose of the party, of course, is to open the wedding gifts. A few moments of planning will save headaches later, therefore a careful record of who sent what is a necessity. A guest book with a gift record section, available from stationers, book stores and bridal shops, is recommended.
After all, wedding parties and all they involve are not meant to be work — they are meant to be enjoyed. That’s what parties are for!
The Reception:
Traditional Reception Sites
In this area reception sites abound, but don't be fooled, most popular sites are often reserved more than a year in advance. The wise couple will reserve their reception location before making other plans. Many couples have found it necessary to choose their wedding date based on "availability" of the reception site. Couples have also found that it is often much easier to book a reception on a Friday or Sunday. Some facilities will even offer special discounts/incentives for receptions held on days other than Saturdays.
When it comes to finding a reception site, there are many types of facilities from which to choose. Hotels, catering halls, country clubs, and restaurants are some of the most popular sites for receptions. Other sites often used for wedding receptions include clubhouses operated by organizations including the American Legion, Veterans of Foreign Wars, athletic, ethnic clubs, service organizations and university unions or even museums. These venues range in capacity from intimate parties to grand affairs. These various facilities also range in style from extremely casual to the utmost formal, keep in mind prices vary greatly too!
When choosing a facility the bridal couple must first determine an approximate number of guests to be sure the location can accommodate their needs. Budget and location are the next factors to consider, followed by preferred ambiance and other special desires.
Reception site managers all agree that the first piece of advice they make to couples looking for a reception site is to know their budget. Only when financial limitations are known can further details be planned. For those on a tight budget, the church hall is a favored reception site, usually available at little or no cost and offering convenience when held immediately following the ceremony.
Other things to keep in mind when searching for the perfect reception site is whether the site can accommodate parking needs, dance space and music requirements. What are the policies on beverages, food and catering services, time restrictions and decorations? Are tables, chairs, linens, silverware and other accessories provided? Check on rental fee, deposits, and date guarantees.
It is important to view the facility before making any final decisions. Looking around, asking questions and if possible viewing the facility when it is set up for a similar type of reception will assure that the couple will be happy with their choice. Once a decision is made the couple should discuss any special needs they or their guests may have with the banquet/site manager. The day of the wedding will be too hectic to deal with any of the details and when the couple arrives at the reception, it will be time to celebrate!
Outdoor Receptions & Tents
Alternative ideas to the traditional reception site list can include city, county and state parks, or one's own backyard! While some parks have shelters available in case of inclement weather, others rely on the rental of tents as shelter. (Since each park has their own restrictions and rules, it is vital that the couple knows well in advance, what they can and cannot do).
The use of a tent combines the feeling of the great outdoors with protection from the elements. Tents come in a variety of styles and can play host to a casual event or elegant gathering. Rental companies can supply beautiful white tents with French window sidewalls, dance floors, lighting, tables, chairs, fountains and more to provide a breathtaking atmosphere for any celebration. Tents are available in many sizes; some can even accommodate over 2,500 people! Professionals in the tent rental business can help choose the size and style that will be best for the event.
The great outdoors also provides many options in food choice from picnics to formal sit-down dinners. Caterers can be hired or the do-it-yourselfer can turn to rental companies for food service equipment and portable bars.
When choosing an outdoor venue there is one more thing to keep in mind, the need for restrooms. Some companies that carry portable restrooms will rent them for special events. Companies that specialize in the business may surprise many. Their units are clean and can come equipped with flushing toilets, sinks, mirrors and lights, providing all the conveniences of an indoor facility outdoors!
Catering
Indoor or out, reception guests look forward to food and refreshments. And indoors or out, professional caterers offer a full range of culinary delights and services. Formal dinners, buffets and brunches can feature a variety of tasty cuisines. Hors d'oeuvres, salads, breads, desserts, pastries and even pig roasts are available for reception fare. Caterers today can satisfy the tastes of any couple, not only for receptions, but also for rehearsals and showers.
In this area, many facilities are under contracts with specific caterers. This means that when a reception facility is chosen, the facility may dictate who will provide the food. If a facility is chosen that lets the couple choose their own caterer; there are a delectable variety of caterers in this area to choose from.
Wednesday, 28 May 2008
After the Wedding
You've chosen to get married; now it's time to choose where you will live. You may decide to rent, as many couples do when they are first getting started, or maybe it's time to buy a new house. The big question is: where do you start?
Apartment Homes
Apartments can be found in a single building, a complex, a house or a flat (renting an entire upper or lower level). Choose which is best for you. If you are worried about noise levels, ask the previous tenants about their experiences while living there.
Determine the location, size (number of bedrooms) and monthly cost ahead of time to narrow your choices while looking. There are many sources for finding an apartment, such as local papers, special renting publications and rent-search agents. These sources give only brief descriptions. It is best to note possibilities and check out the apartment for yourself.
Before you go, make a list of items you should inspect and questions you want to ask. Inspect items such as the water pressure (don't be afraid to turn on the shower!), closet space, storage space outside the apartment, cupboard space, appliances, cleanliness and general upkeep of the building and grounds, etc.
Ask the right questions. How much is the security deposit? Is the lease month-to -month or yearly? If you sign a lease, what are the penalties (if any) if you need to leave before the lease is up? Are utilities included? If not, what are the average monthly bills? Do you need to pay for carpet cleaning when you decide to leave? Is there parking, and are you charged extra for the space? Are there laundry facilities on the premises? Are pets allowed? Are the window coverings included with the apartment? Is the entrance (security) locked and well-lit at night?
When you first move in, make a list of damaged items and give a copy of it to your landlord so you are not charged for them when you move out. Include anything - nicks in cupboards, markings on the linoleum, stains in the carpeting, a loose towel rack or hook - no item is too small. If anything needs fixing, be sure to tell the landlord about it so it can be fixed before you settle in.
Buying a Home
Buying a home is one of the biggest financial decisions you and your spouse will make during your lifetime. So the first step is to sit down together with a lender to discuss your financial situation and determine how much you can afford and what you will need to save for the down payment. If you want to figure this out by yourselves, you can estimate the cost by multiplying your annual income(s) by 2.5. The down payment is usually between 5 and 10 percent of that total. However, the bigger your down payment, the smaller the mortgage and your monthly payment will be. It is wise to visit your lender before you begin to look, so that you know your price range ahead of time.
After you've determined what you can afford, the next step is "the search." Start your search by listing your preferences, such as location, size, number of bedrooms, number of bathrooms, etc. This will help narrow your selection. However, keep in mind that your first home may not fulfill your every wish. Also, if you plan to start a family within the next few years, be sure to choose a home with enough bedrooms or one that has room to expand. After you have your ideal house in mind, you may start the search - on your own, with a realtor, buyer broker or broker agent.
"The search" is on. While you look at houses, always be sure to take notes. After looking at many houses, it is easy to confuse them. Also, be sure to ask questions! The only dumb questions are those that have not been asked. Before buying any house, it is wise to have it inspected by a professional who will check any details you may have overlooked.
Financing Your Home
When you've found the home that both you and your new spouse agree on, it's time to deal with the financing. It is very important to shop for the right lending institution. Find out which has the lowest interest rates and compare down-payment requirements.
Once you've chosen the financial institution you'll be dealing with, a lending officer will show you different mortgage options. This can be confusing, don't be afraid to ask questions.
Furnishing Your New Home
Whether you are renting an apartment or buying a new home, remember that you are in a marriage now. You will need to compromise when it comes to deciding on furnishings. It is often a difficult decision, since you are combining two sets of belongings and often different tastes.
You may want to start a style of decor, such as southwestern, country or modern. If your ideas are totally opposite, you may need to compromise by dividing the rooms. For instance, the living room could sport a country flair, while the bedroom could cozy up with southwestern decor.
As you shop for new furnishings decide whether you want to choose items you will keep for many years to come, or temporary pieces you may upgrade in a few years. For temporary furnishings, you may choose to go with less expensive furniture or rental items. If you are looking for permanent pieces, you may want to begin with the items you need the most for everyday living and add to the collection as your budget allows. Many higher end furniture stores have designers on staff who can help you choose and layout your furniture plans. They can even help you choose furnishings that will work with the pieces you already have.
When combining your belongings the most important thing of all is to remember that items you may not like might have deep sentimental value to your spouse. Don't hurt the feelings of the one you love. More importantly, make room for the things each of you treasure.
Buying an Automobile
Another major purchase most couples make is buying an automobile. Before making the decision on which vehicle to purchase it is wise for the buyers to consider their needs (what the vehicle will be used for) and desires (options they would prefer). With the high price tags of many new automobiles, it is imperative for a couple to calculate what they can afford in their budget. Once a dollar amount is set, the couple can begin their search for a new vehicle. The consumers should shop around, test drive and compare features, prices, comfort, maintenance and safety ratings. Another major factor to consider is the fuel rating (m.p.g.). With today's high energy prices, hundreds of dollars in gas may be saved per year by choosing a more fuel-efficient vehicle.
Establishing a Budget
While buying a home or a new automobile are some of the biggest financial purchases a couple will ever make, it's the daily financial decisions that make those purchases possible.
Sometime before the wedding, the couple should determine how much money they will make and how much they will spend during their first year together. Expenses every couple should itemize include fixed costs: shelter, food, clothing, transportation, insurance and utilities. Other expenses include entertainment, travel, hobbies and the like.
By subtracting expected expenses from net income, the couple will begin to realize how much they can spend.
Of course, expenses relate directly to the couple's goals. They must choose together what is important to them and manage their money accordingly. Today's husband and wife, typically both wage earners, wisely discuss how having children will affect earnings. Will both spouses continue to work when a child is born? If not, they should be wary of becoming accustomed to living off both incomes.
Savings & Investments
Financial experts advise couples to begin a savings plan immediately to meet their short-term and long-term goals, be the goals new furnishings, house improvements, house or car payments or education funds for children. Couples should read investment publications and get opinions from more than one investment broker and/or financial adviser. These professionals can explain the pros and cons of money market accounts, certificates of deposit, treasury bills, stocks, mutual funds and more. Only by being informed, can the couple make the best saving decisions. Most economists still consider buying a house to be a sound investment if the mortgage payments fit within the established budget.
Life insurance is still a necessity for the average couple, though seen more as a fund for the surviving spouse and children and less as a long-term investment. The internet has a helpful site, www.life-line.org, which gives information on the different types of insurance and needed coverage as well as numerous consumer tips.
Finally, many experts suggest couples save at least 10% of their net income in a readily available emergency fund earmarked for unforeseen circumstances.
Wisconsin couples contemplating marriage should know that, since 1986, all income earned and assets acquired by either spouse during marriage is jointly owned. This is the basic premise of Wisconsin's complex marital property law, little understood by most married couples. Local libraries have information on this law, which is so pertinent to all Wisconsin couples. Any couple, especially those with substantial assets, will benefit from learning about this law before they wed. Important prenuptial strategies and agreements on how to handle finances are impossible if the couple is uninformed.
Beautiful Adornments:
Choosing a Florist
Start the process of choosing a florist by looking here at the WEDDING Planner & Guide Online, visiting the WEDDING Planner & Guide Bridal Show and by asking friends and family for referrals. If the flowers at a recent wedding were particularly exquisite, ask the bride which florist she used. Once a list of several has been formed, make an appointment with each to sit down and talk about options and to view photos of past arrangements and weddings. The first appointment will usually take an hour or so.
Before keeping that appointment, assemble some items that will help the florist to help you. First, work out a general budget for your wedding flowers. The "Flowers" worksheet found in the worksheet section of this WEDDING Planner & Guide is a great way to get started. Ask yourself questions like:
• How many bridesmaids and groomsmen will there be?
• Who outside the bridal party will receive flowers to wear?
• Will the florist decorate the pew ends or the altar in the church?
• Will flowers be required for the wedding cake?
• Will the florist decorate the reception site, including the head table and other tables?
In addition to budget information, your florist will need you to bring such helpful items as photos or magazine clippings of flower arrangements you like, a photo of your wedding dress so she can match the style of the flowers with it and a fabric swatch from your bridesmaids’ dresses for color comparison.
Cost
The cost of wedding flowers can vary widely depending on several factors. Exotic out-of-season flowers will, of course, cost far more than locally-grown and easily obtained in-season flowers. Upscale, cutting-edge floral designers will most likely be more expensive than a more traditional florist. Bouquets rich in certain flowers and light on greenery will certainly make a dent in your pocketbook. Though the convenience of having a florist decorate the church and reception site can be more costly, it is usually worth the amount of stress it will relieve and provides beautiful end results!
In this area, the average cost of wedding flowers lies somewhere in the $1,600 to $2,100 range for most weddings. Some brides avoid some of this cost by arranging the flowers themselves, but this can be a stressful and tricky operation. If considering this option, remember that the flowers will have to be prepared either the day before or the day of the wedding and will need to be refrigerated. Someone will have to transport them to and distribute them at the church. Is the added responsibility worth the money saved? Only the bride herself can answer that question.
Bouquets & Such
Color saturation is the watchword for today’s bridal bouquets, according to local florists. They say that blue is still a very trendy color for flowers, especially when paired with purple or a periwinkle color. Subdued colors such as taupe tinged with pink are edging their way into bouquets everywhere, too. These colors go well with the taupe and pewter dresses worn by today’s bridesmaids.
As for bouquet shapes, they say that ‘simple elegance’ are the first words out of every bride’s mouth.
Many brides today seek out a pavé arrangement, which is a tight cluster of blossoms. Such bouquets might consist of a single type of flower in the same or related colors or it might include several different varieties of flowers. These arrangements have very few, if any, greens, which can make them costly. This is a very balanced, geometric look made popular in recent years.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, the European hand-tied bouquet retains its favor with brides everywhere. This arrangement has a fresh, natural appeal and can include a diverse selection of flowers. Most often, these bouquets have a casual simplicity that many brides find particularly appealing.
What flowers do brides choose to include in their bouquets? Romantic roses, as always, top the list. Brides also choose fresh lavender, sages and other herbs. Berries, Lisianthus (also known as the false rose) and hydrangeas make regular appearances, too. (See the chart at the end of this article for other wedding favorites). Silk flowers remain popular, especially top-of-the-line silks, that can hardly be differentiated from fresh. Some brides even include delicate silk fruits in their bouquets.
To set off the simple look of today’s flower arrangements, whether formal or natural, florists employ different styles of rich-looking ribbon. Satin ribbon might wrap around a bouquet’s stems to hide them and to ensure unstained, unpricked hands. Wide satin ribbon in silk gives a lush simplicity when tied in a simple bow. Sheer ribbons add a fairy-tale feel to a tight cluster of elegant blooms. Ribbon colors range from deep cocoas to pearly white.
Today’s boutonniéres also have a new look, pared down and simple, often with a satin ribbon to accompany them. And like the pavé bouquets, boutonniéres often forego the greenery to achieve a single-minded elegance.
Floral Decor
That elegant simplicity has changed the way churches are decorated for weddings, too. "A lot of brides are doing more at the reception than they used to," a local florist explains. "The church look is simpler — the (decorating) money is spent at the reception."
That means receptions have blossomed. There, topiaries and wheat sheaves decorate tables with elegance. Again, pavé clusters of single or several flowers adorn tables like jewels.
Preserving the Flowers
With all the effort, time and money that go into the wedding flowers, one final detail that is often overlooked is preserving them. For centuries brides have discarded or left their bouquets to dry and shrivel away. Now brides can keep their bouquets with the latest technologies in flower preservation. The process of flower preservation is incredibly involved and time consuming if done correctly. Floral preservationists know how to handle each flower to provide you with the most "life like" look possible. Keep in mind plans must be made in advance if floral preservation is desired. Consult a floral preservationist at least two months prior to the wedding to arrange to have the flowers shipped, delivered, or picked up immediately after the wedding while they are still fresh. Preserved flowers are attractive accents for any home. Special display pieces can be made using the flowers and other wedding keepsakes. Just as the wedding gown, photographs and other sentimental memorabilia can be a reminder; bridal flowers too can bring a lifetime of enjoyment!
Sunday, 25 May 2008
Capturing Memories:
Even some memories fade over time.
That is why a wise couple will set
aside a portion of their wedding
budget for quality photographs.
For most people, photographs are memories they can hold in their hand and actually see. Their intimate nature makes them the ideal way to capture a wedding-forever. Couples want to ensure someone with expertise, creativity, and experience handles these moments.
Professional or Amateur?
While it may be tempting to entrust a friend or relative with the task of taking photographs at the wedding, most professionals agree this is a mistake. It may save a little money, but it won’t get a professional-quality product at the end. And remember—this is forever!
"Professional photographers are always learning new techniques and updating their equipment to give their clients the best photos possible," explains our expert. "A professional is trained in lighting, posing, composition, and making sure no detail is overlooked."
Besides having a trained eye, an expert photographer also has the most current equipment, and it’s professional equipment, too. He or she uses professional grade film and has the film developed at a high-quality lab. This ensures the best-quality photos.
"Anyone can take a picture," our expert points out, "but only a professional can produce portraits."
Choosing a Photographer
Be sure to do research before choosing a photographer, advises our expert. Check out the Shopping Directory, the WEDDING Planner & Guide bridal show, and ask friends and relatives. Couples should decide on the style of wedding photographs they want, how long they want the photographer to be at the wedding, and how much they can spend before calling photographers.
What should a couple look for when hiring a photographer? "The most important thing should be the style and quality of the photographer’s work," says our expert, "then the personality of the photographer." Remember, he or she will be around all day long—couples want someone enjoyable and helpful, not abrasive and pushy. Be sure to meet with and see the work of the photographer who will be shooting the wedding.
But there’s one last thing to consider when hiring the photographer. "Then (consider) price," our expert states. "Don’t be willing to sacrifice quality or sanity just to save a few dollars."
Our expert goes on to add that a photographer is a wedding expert, with plenty of experience for a bride and groom to call on.
Film or Digital?
Although digital cameras have become very popular for hobbyists, not all professional photographers have made the switch.
Which is better? The best answer to that question is to see the work produced by the photographer. Some digital photos may have a lower resolution and can become pixelated when enlarged; however, many digital cameras have resolution that rivals film. Just be sure to check the quality of the photographer’s work and their equipment.
The power of digital offers many added bonuses, including instant on-the-spot viewing, easy photographing in both B&W and color, and greater customizing before final printing. Typically recieving proofs from film can take 4 to 6 weeks after your wedding. Digital photographers can make proofs almost immediately, but many photographers will provide a CD to view on a computer, or even an online wedding gallery.
Whether choosing digital or traditional film, the end product should be a collection of exceptional photographs that tell the story of your day forever.
Photographic Styles and Choices
Creativity is key in today’s wedding photography. Couples should educate themselves about what is available and then choose which style suits them best.
"The current trend is traditional black-and-white photos and an even mix of ‘photo-journalistic’-style photos," says our expert. "(These) are generally taken from a distance so the subject is unaware and does not pose, creating a more natural look with true emotions."
Gone are the stiff poses of the early part of the 20th century, according to our expert. "Outdoor photos with a touch of creativity are also very popular," he notes, adding that the creativity can encompass something like a bride and groom sitting or laying in the grass.
To cut the time between ceremony and reception, many couples choose to have photos taken before the ceremony. But if they’re more traditional and don’t want the groom to catch sight of the bride then, the photographer should be willing to work around that desire. It’s still possible to cut time by taking photos of sets of people (bride and bridesmaids, groom and groomsmen, families, etc.) ahead of time.
A professional photographer will help make decisions about photographic style, poses, and even who should be photographed when. He or she will also have suggestions that might not have been thought of, such as unusual or beautiful outdoor spots.
Calendar and Cost
Professionals urge couples not to dally in seeking out a photographer. It doesn’t hurt to hire one a year or more before the wedding, especially if your wedding falls in the peak season.
"A couple can find packages as low as $750 and as high as $5,000," reveals our expert. "The key is knowing what you are getting." For instance, at the low end, a couple may get photos on film and pay to have them processed. On the higher end, the photographer may shoot everything in a higher-quality film and include several enlarged photos and a top-grade wedding album.
"Always compare apples to apples" warns our expert. "Never compare quantity. Seven hundred photos of low quality may not be woth as much as two hundred high quality photos."
After the wedding, anticipate a two- to three-week turnaround to see the wedding proofs. This is especially true during the peak wedding season of April through October.
Advice
Couples are encouraged to take extra care to choose the highest-quality photographer that they can possibly afford. If a photographer makes them feel intimidated, uncomfortable, or has a hard time communicating with them, think twice before hiring him or her. Be sure the photographer offers an easy-to-understand contract or brochure that states explicitly what is included for the amount of money they are paying. If a photographer tries to sell unwanted items, don’t hire him or her.
"This is the bride and groom’s day," our expert emphasizes. "They should decide how it will be enjoyed."
Getting Started
Planning the wedding budget is a marvelous opportunity for the prospective bride & groom to practice communication and cooperation for the start of their future together.
Using Professionals
The importance of working with professionals is obvious. These are people who deal with weddings on a daily basis and have made their career and/or business by knowing what is proper and what is popular when it comes to weddings. While some couples try to save money by enlisting the help of family and friends, or by doing-it-themselves, many times the need for a professional becomes clear. Weddings are a unique event and those who specialize in them know how to handle just about any particular circumstance a couple may have.
When choosing whom to work with for the wedding, be sure to keep in mind both the wedding budget and the quality of services desired. Compare the work of each professional. Choose people who know their business, who show interest and kindness, listen and spend time with their customers. In businesses that have more than a one person staff, be sure to meet with and see sample work of the person who will actually be handling the wedding.
Help the professionals by making appointments instead of dropping in and expecting to be served immediately. Keep appointments and be on time. Get back to them when they are waiting to hear back. Let them know if their services will not be needed (other couples may be missing out because a date was held). Be organized and try to give as much information as possible so they can do their job.
Feeling overwhelmed already? Don’t despair; area wedding consultants are in the business of taking care of all the details. Most consultants will help with as much or as little of the planning as desired. Their services can include setting up appointments, narrowing down choices and coordinating all aspects of the wedding. Some consultants will actually come to the wedding itself to take care of any last minute details that may arise.
The Wedding Budget
One of the first decisions a couple faces when planning a wedding is determining the budget. Couples often do not know what to expect and therefore are surprised by the actual costs involved with a wedding. The couple should sit down and discuss the financial impact the wedding will incur before making any definite plans. By deciding how much the bride/groom have to spend, and if so, how much assistance the couple will receive from family, will immediately play a key role in determining the wedding budget.
Most couples wisely have one common wish regarding wedding budgets: they do not want to go into debt. Financial experts advise against unlimited spending, knowing it is better to start a marriage without needless liabilities. Unfortunately, some couples spend money expecting much cash as wedding gifts, only to be disappointed later. Other couples under-budget for wedding and honeymoon expenses, creating a less-than-wonderful experience. The wise bride and groom will do their homework and be realistic about prices and their budget knowing you cannot have an elegant sit-down dinner for 300 guests for $1,000. Careful itemizing of every expense will make the wedding budget a success. Use the "Budget Expense Record" in the worksheet section It will give you an idea of many of the items you may need to budget for.
Who Pays for What
Today as many couples are waiting until later in life to get married, many are taking on more of the expense of the wedding than in years past. Although traditionally the bride and her family have paid for the majority of the wedding, modern times are showing countless options when it comes to who pays for what. Depending on the financial status of the couple and their respective families, costs may be shared on any or all items relating to the wedding. While some parents may offer help with a particular part of the wedding, others will give a gift of a specified dollar amount to let the couple choose how to spend it. Whatever decisions are made concerning who pays for what, the couple is ultimately responsible for the costs and should be appreciative of any assistance they receive.
The following list of "Who Pays For What" offers both a traditional break-down as well as some modern ideas:
Traditionally the Bride and Her Family Usually Pay For:
• Invitations and announcements (including postage).
• The bride's wedding dress and accessories.
• Bouquets for the bridesmaids and flower girl.
• Boutonniere for the groom.
• The bridesmaids' party or luncheon.
• Flowers and rental costs for the church and reception site.
• Engagement and wedding photographs.
• The musicians at both the wedding and reception.
• Food, beverages, and related professional services (catering) for the reception.
• The wedding cake.
• Gifts for the bridesmaids (and accommodations, if necessary).
• The groom's wedding gift.
• The groom's wedding ring.
• Transportation for the wedding party on the wedding day.
Traditionally the Groom and His Family Usually Pay For:
• The marriage license.
• The clergyman's fee.
• The rehearsal dinner.
• The bride's bouquet and going-away flowers.
• Corsages for the mothers and boutonnieres for the men in the wedding party.
• Gifts for the groomsmen and ushers (and accommodations, if necessary).
• The bride's wedding gift.
• The bride's engagement and wedding rings.
• The honeymoon.
• Groom's wedding attire
Some Modern Ideas:
There are countless options, to be sure. The bride's bouquet, for example, can be included with the flowers her family buys. The mothers' and grandmothers' flowers, as well as the men's boutonnieres, can also be part of this package.
The groom's side can offer to share the cost of any part or all of the wedding.
Dresses and tuxedos (or suits) worn by the bridesmaids and groomsmen are usually paid for by each attendant. The bride and groom, however, can offer to pay for all or part of them if they wish.
Remember, tradition does not always have to be served, nor does etiquette always have to be followed. Whatever the source of the money, it is the bride and groom's wedding, and their wishes are paramount.
Thursday, 3 April 2008
Cheap Wedding Planner
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